People on such short trips usually don’t stick around long enough to realize how ineffective they are being. In Uganda, I got used to seeing groups of young people come for week-long visits at the orphanage where taught English. They would play with the kids, give them a bracelet or something, and then leave all-smiles, thinking they just saved Africa. I was surprised when the day after the first group left, exactly zero of the kids were wearing the bracelet they had received the day prior. The voluntourists left thinking they gave the kids something they didn’t have before (and with bragging rights for life). But the kids didn’t care, because what they really wanted was school uniforms, their school fees to be paid, guaranteed meals, basic healthcare, and the like — the basics.
Worse, they can even be harmful to children who struggle with abandonment issues. This should not be understated; have you ever considered the negative impact it routinely has on kids after they bond with someone for a week, and then that person disappears from their life? If your justification for going on these trips is “seeing the smiles on the kids’ faces”, then you’re part of the problem.
Wednesday, May 25, 2016
Friday, May 06, 2016
This thing is common in my generation. People be like making fun of single people out there. And those who are taken feel superior because they think they have somebody to hold their backs. And I'm here, laughing at you guys who feel superior becaue of that.
I'm not going to deny that I like the idea of having a relationship. Everybody wants the ideal ones, well, who doesn't? But the fact that you're taken because you couldn't handle the "single people" sort of joke is appalling. You can't stand on your own, can you? So you need somebody to hold you, so you wouldn't fall apart? You weak human being.
I'm writing this to those who are ashamed of being called "jomblo". Nobody could make you inferior without your consent. Well, my ideal type of relationship means loving each other unconditionally, without even asking for public display attention. It is fine if you want to tell the world that you're proudly his, but please, we don't need every shitty explanation that you wrote on Instagram. We don't need that so called "goals".
Here it is, you better look for things that makes you happy, invest your energy in things that lasts forever (books, movies) but not men. Men are human being, eventually, they passed away. Lastly, be like a butterfly, pretty to see, hard to catch.
End of the passage, I would like to say sorry for many quotes intended.